The Sixth Basic Need of a Wife 

SHE NEEDS TO KNOW THAT YOU ARE AWARE OF HER PRESENCE EVEN WHEN YOUR MIND IS ON OTHER MATTERS. 

Your awareness of your wife’s presence is her assurance of your love for her. 

For starters a short check list: 

  • Help her with her coat 
  • Open the car door for her 
  • Pick up after yourself 
  • Tell her your schedule 
  • Refrain from crude language and criticism 
  • Your personal cleanliness, neatness and grooming 
  • Properly introduce her 
  • Date her once a week 
  • Purposefully discuss how you together raise the children 
  • Listen to learn Not to reply or to‘fix it’ 

You may have to alert her to these new acts of awareness so that she can adjust, like ‘wait for you to open the car door’. 

How do you do this while you are engaged in your work a day world? 

Her presence should be what you are drawn back to, like when you were dating. 

It is like the paddle ball game. Your mind goes out a hundred different places like the red ball on the end of the rubber band, but her presence always draws you back to her. 

Guys! Let me know how this goes! – Bill Thompson 

BASIC NEEDS OF A WIFE

The Fifth Basic Need of a Wife 

SHE NEEDS TO KNOW THAT YOU ENJOY SETTING ASIDE QUALITY TIME FOR INTIMATE CONVERSATION WITH HER. 

You are the shepherd of the family. 

She has insights about herself and the family that will only be shared in these moments. 

She may: 

  • Feel insecure if you predecease her, or lose your job. 
  • Fear getting old, getting sick and/or becoming unattractive to you. 
  • Feel deficient as mother, in social circles, or as a wife. 
  • Fear the empty nest. 
  • Fear for her safety when she is alone. 

This is a short list. 
 It is up to you to develop that safe environment for her to open up. 

Set a date, be on time (find what time best suits her schedule), turn your cell off, pick a place meaningful to her and try to make it a weekly event. 

If you have children, you  make the necessary arrangements for their care. 

It is your honor and responsibility to go before God and find what she needs from you. 

Guys! Let me know how this goes! – Bill Thompson

The Fourth Basic Need of a Wife 

SHE NEEDS TO KNOW THAT YOU UNDERSTAND HER BY PROTECTING HER IN AREAS OF HER LIMITATIONS 

In one of his detective shoot-em up movies Clint Eastwood makes the statement “A man needs to know his limitations.” 

In the movie The Blind Side, Michael Oher was driven to never allow his quarterback to get blindsided. 

In the same manner your wife needs you to help her identify and address her limitations, her blind side. Sometimes a precarious task, none the less it is a mandate from God. 

Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church, his love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her. Eph. 5:25, 26 

You husbands in a similar way love your wife, with discernment and understanding, as with a most delicate vessel. Honor her.   1 Pet. 3:7 

Guys! Let me know how this goes! – Bill Thompson

The Third Basic Need of a Wife 

SHE NEEDS TO SEE AND HEAR THAT YOU CHERISH HER AND THAT YOU DELIGHT IN HER AS A PERSON 

To Cherish is to see great value in a person that you want to protect and also to praise to others. 

It is important for her to know that she is a vital part of your world and equally important that your delight goes beyond the things she can do for you. 

SO – Grab a cup of coffee; find a quiet place for a time of reflection and prayer. Ask God to clarify for you the things that attracted you to your wife (character qualities / personality traits / etc.) and the evidences of God’s leading that brought you together. 
Make a list of things that come to mind. Then set a aside a quiet time with her and share that list with her. She needs to hear your heart. 

Guys! Let me know how this goes! – Bill Thompson

The Second Basic Need of a Wife 

SHE NEEDS TO KNOW THAT SHE IS MEETING VITAL NEEDS IN YOUR LIFE AND WORK THAT NO OTHER WOMAN CAN MEET. 

Do you know – does she know you know and appreciate that: 

  1. She is the basis of your most important message to draw others to Christ by illustrating how Christ loves the church? 
  2. She provides potential power in your prayers ?– I Pt. 3:7 
  3. She is an “alarm system” against other women with wrong motives? 
  4. She is a mirror of your present spiritual condition? 
  5. She can give you the joy of a physical relationship without guilt? 5:19,20 
  6. She is a safeguard to your hasty decisions because of her need for security and consistency? 
  7. She instills attitudes in the children? 
  8. She discerns the real needs of the children? 

BEFORE HONOR MUST COME HUMILITY —  TELL YOUR WIFE YOUR REAL NEEDS, SHE IS DESIGNED TO HELP YOU! 

Guys! Let me know how this goes! – Bill Thompson

The First Basic Need of a Wife 

WHAT HAVE YOU DONE TODAY TO HELP YOUR WIFE BECOME THE WOMAN THAT GOD CALLED HER TO BE? 

For the next couple months we will be presenting the seven basic needs of a wife. 

THE FIRST OF THE SEVEN BASIC NEEDS: 
SHE NEEDS TO SEE AND HEAR THAT YOU CHERISH HER AND THAT YOU DELIGHT IN HER AS A PERSON 

From her perspective, four major issues to consider are that: 

1) You desire to seek the Lord 
2) You have convictions based on Scripture (which you have been studying) 
3) You are determined to follow those convictions. 

(Bible, Belief and Behavior are integrated) 

4) You are motivated by the fruit of the spirit, by Love 

Practice this for a couple weeks then ask your wife how you are doing and where you can improve. 

Guys! Let me know how this goes! – Bill Thompson